If you’ve been following me on Instagram or Facebook you’ll know that I always sign off my posts with this sentence.
The reason I repeat this so often is because it’s true….
It IS time to fall in Love with you!
Pause for a minute and let that sink in. Whatever your age, whatever your circumstances, whatever your history or situation it’s time to fall in Love with you.
Now….Starting today…. Not a moment to waste.
Self Love really is the best Love because everything else flows from it…
It’s Valentine’s Day – the day for Lovers. You can’t move for love hearts, red roses and slushy stuff. It’s EVERYWHERE – shops, restaurants, supermarkets, you can’t escape it. LOVE becomes very commercialised in February! What about the rest of the year?
Whether you’re single, in a terrible relationship, or in an ok relationship, it’s still time to fall in Love with you.
Why? Because you can only love another person to the extent that you love yourself. I’m not saying a romantic partner is not a wonderful thing, it most definitely is, but a beautiful relationship always starts with you, not another person. How you think of yourself, and how you treat yourself ultimately determines how others think about and treat you.
We teach people how to treat us by the energy we give off.
If you don’t love yourself first no relationship will ever thrive. No matter how wonderful the other person is, because you’ll eventually sabotage it. If you manage to find yourself in a great relationship you won’t believe you deserve it. You’ll have a glass ceiling on the amount of love/affection you’ll allow into your life. You’ll put a cap on it, making it a humdrum relationship or even driving the other person away.
Or conversely you’ll allow someone into your life that mistreats you or abuses you or takes advantage of you.
We’re all hard-wired to want connection, but we can’t connect fully or healthily to others if we’re not connected to ourselves first.
Learn to love yourself first and THEN share that love with your special someone.
If you’re single right now fall in love with you before you go looking for your person. It will be the best relationship of your life (if they love themselves too).
It’s ESSENTIAL that you heal any core wounds. That you see yourself as you TRULY are, not who you FEAR you are. You mustn’t avoid your painful feelings, your shadows. You must shine a light on them. Only then can the shadow disperse.
You must heal your wounded inner child.
When your inner child is wounded it learns to manage pain by being clingy and controlling or conversely by cutting off and denying your feelings. Your heart can never enjoy the Love that is possible for you if you are avoiding the pain.
Early disappointments or traumas can lead to you being emotionally stunted. You get stuck as a child, teen or young adult.
Literally, you grow physically and mentally but you get stuck emotionally.
So you might be 35 in physical years but emotionally you’re only 5 or 8 or 13. You may feel emptiness inside because of this and it can cause addictions, depression and almost certainly relationship problems.
A wounded younger self will try to control everything and everyone to stop any more hurt. We want true love more than anything else but with a wounded inner child it will always elude us.
It’s time to be extra kind to you.
It’s time to romance you.
It’s time to buy flowers (if you enjoy them) for you.
It’s time to enjoy spending time with you.
It’s time to Love you.
Think falling in love with you is impossible? Too damaged, too ugly, too old, too ….(fill in the blank).
I’m here to tell you it’s not. I promise. You just need a guide who can show you how to do it.
Enjoy your Valentine’s/Galentine’s Day.
Much Love
Christina xx