Happy New Year to all my wonderful Lovelies!
I hope you all had a very peaceful and restorative Christmas period?
I certainly did 🙂
After all the Christmas rush and chaos, I’m very lazy in the week between Christmas and New Year.
I see this as a vital time for resting, restoring and recharging my batteries.
I can’t give from my overflow if my cups completely empty now can I… 🙂
And neither can you.
2024 is upon us.
It’s an 8 year, if you’re into numerology like I am.
2 + 0 + 2 + 4 = 8.
Creativenumerology.com states that “an 8 year is a time to develop your personal power”.
(Isn’t that every year)?
“It’s a year to begin a journey of true understanding, reward, balance and achievement”.
Wow!
I’ll have some of that 🙂
It states “this year you will prosper according to the strength of your determination”.
So be determined my Lovelies.
Be strong.
You can do it!
“The 8 year vibration will provide the personal power to change the status quo and accomplish a significant goal that will alter the direction and quality of your life”.
Woohoo!
Are you ready to capitalise on this auspicious energy and make some big changes this year?
I sincerely hope so!
I definitely am.
I can’t believe how quickly another new year has rolled around.
Where did 2023 go??
I Love the positive energy and hopefulness that’s around at the beginning of a new year.
It’s a time to review the past…what worked…what didn’t…what still needs to be achieved…what can be built upon etc…
And a great time to set some intentions and make some new plans.
Notice I didn’t say New Year’s resolutions.
I mentioned it this time last year – soft goals work best for me, not hard ones.
I think this applies for most Lovelies.
When we give ourselves hard goals with rigid timelines, we very rarely achieve them and then feel down on ourselves.
Cut yourself a bit of slack and instead, give yourself permission to just make steady progress towards your goals.
Focus more on your progress than the goal itself.
Yes, it takes a little longer, but we seem to achieve more consistently that way.
It’s like the success seems to just sneak up on you 🙂
It’s a case of evolving gently and incrementally, without having to beat ourselves up or catastrophise when we occasionally fall off the wagon (which we will).
It’s about accepting that we’re human; dusting ourselves off and getting back on the wagon again.
The trick is to never stop getting back on the wagon and somehow the goal gets achieved.
Obviously, you’re free to set goals however they work best for you.
But if you’re a Lovely, you might just like to give this way a try?
In late January 2022, I set myself a goal of writing a new blog every week for a hundred weeks.
I’m happy to say that I stuck with my (quite rigid for me) goal and this is now blog number 100.
I’ve thoroughly enjoyed myself for the last 2 years.
I receive lovely feedback for these blogs, which has made it all worthwhile.
So many people have said to me “Gosh Christina, it’s as if you wrote that about me”.
I didn’t – I just know my Lovelies so well 🙂
I like to hope these blogs have given you some insight into your Lovely ways and some methods you can use to boost your self-esteem to better navigate them.
When I originally set up Dream Self Esteem I had two different client types in mind – my Lovelies and my Lonelies.
They both were (and still are) my two favourite types of clients.
Both have low self-esteem, but this manifests itself in completely different ways.
You, my Lovelies are the gentle people-pleasers.
Everything in life is all about other people and never about you.
You always put yourself last – which often leads you to feel unhappy, unfulfilled, taken advantage of and often (quite rightly) resentful.
Lovelies are roughly split 60% women, 40% men.
My Lonelies, on the other hand, are a different kettle of fish altogether.
They handle their low self-esteem by developing an incredible drive to prove themselves.
They really “succeed” in life, but deep down, never really like the person they become.
They have EVERYTHING materially, but very little emotionally.
This leads them to feel unhappy, hollow and dissatisfied, despite their success.
They spend so much time working and doing/excelling that they don’t have time to develop strong relationships/connections with others, hence their Lonely title.
Many of them have depression and/or addictions from their attempt to fill that empty feeling inside.
They are often cold, emotionally unavailable and shut down.
They have a hard shell (but a very soft centre).
They’re not bad people, just entrenched in their (incorrect) beliefs.
Lonelies are predominantly (but not always) men.
For some reason, that I’m not sure of, my blogs here went more down the Lovely route than the Lonely one.
I now need to redress that balance.
So I’ll be taking a break from uploading here and I’ll be switching my weekly blogs to a new website I’ve specifically created for my Lonelies.
The new website is called The Happy Man Method (.com) and it will be going live at the end of the month.
I’ll post and let you know once it’s launched, as some of you may also enjoy that content.
The two sites will work together side by side.
If I had a clone of me, or another several hours in my week, I would continue with both, but with a completely full appointment book and a waiting list of clients wanting to work with me, I simply can’t.
I’ve been fine-tuning the happy man method for a very long time now.
It’s a 3 step programme over 12 weeks.
I’ve worked with many hundreds of men (including my Lonelies) over the years.
I understand them now as much as I do you, my wonderful Lovelies.
I know exactly how to help them heal and thrive.
We all believe our issues are completely unique and personal to us, but you’d be surprised how little difference there is once you’ve seen hundreds of clients.
Our stories may be unique, but their treatment is not.
The Happy Man method works beautifully.
I’ve witnessed it time and time again.
The transformations achieved are spectacular 🙂
If you have a Lonely in your life…a friend…relative…work colleague or neighbour, then please point them in the direction of this new site.
As well as the website and blog there will also be a weekly Happy Man Method podcast.
I know many Lonely men prefer to listen, rather than read, and then ponder things privately.
They’re not as open as my male Lovelies.
For an initial period I will be giving a ÂŁ500 incentive to any of my existing clients/readers/Lovelies who recommend a Lonely who signs up for the Method.
Really???
Yes.
I really do want to help these guys.
Woo – can’t be bad! 🙂
I know we Lovelies are super sensitive, so I don’t want you to feel that I’m abandoning or neglecting you.
I’m really not.
I’ll be continuing with Dream Self Esteem, just not these blogs for a while.
I’ll review things again as they evolve.
If you’d like to contact/work with me then please do so through my book a call page here or by email at [email protected]
I always love to hear from you.
Mwaah.
Bye for now.
Much Love
(Lovely) Christina xx