Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself overall; how much esteem, positive regard or self-love you have. It’s how we rate ourselves as human beings, how worthy we feel we are.
Self-esteem refers to our acceptance of ourselves and the value we place on ourselves. The word “esteem” means to regard highly or favourably. In other words, it’s how much you like yourself!
How much do you like yourself? It’s probably not a question you’ve ever asked yourself before, but the answer to that question is so important, because it impacts every single area of your life. In my experience not many people like themselves much, at all. And sadly, many people positively hate themselves, barely having any self-confidence or self-belief, despite being very worthwhile, capable, lovely people.
So many people nowadays are full of doubt and insecurity and settling for MUCH less than they deserve.
Our self-esteem and self-image are so important because they impact every single area of our lives. EVERY SINGLE ONE!
If you have a healthy self-esteem you will be confident in your own skin. You will allow yourself to make mistakes without feeling guilty. You will have a positive attitude about you and your life. You will seek out opportunities and go for them. You know that you are a good, worthwhile person who deserves to be happy. You will push yourself in your career and accept challenges as they arise. You will generally have great relationships with friends and family and you will make decisions quickly and easily. You will have flourishing, balanced romantic relationships or you will be happily single. You will feel inherently worthy and the equal of anyone. You will like and enjoy who you are as a person – your own best friend – accepting any flaws or foibles as just a part of who you are.
If you have an unhealthy or low self-esteem you will often be very hard on yourself. You generally won’t be as confident as you could be, you might carry shame and guilt from your past. You may be a people-pleaser that others take advantage of and you often put yourself last. You could even be a bit of a doormat. Deep down you don’t believe that you are a good, worthwhile person deserving of good things. You can often be unmotivated and not go for opportunities, relationships or promotions because you don’t think you’re good enough or you deserve them. Often you settle in a relationship where you’re not treated how you deserve to be treated. And this can be a repeating pattern no matter who the other person is.
You can actually be outwardly very successful in life and still have low self-esteem. This will leave you feeling hollow and unhappy despite your career or financial success. It may lead to alcoholism or other addictions in an attempt to fill that emptiness inside. A difficult childhood with lots of criticism can give you an incredible drive to succeed but it won’t necessarily mean that you’ll like yourself.
Self-esteem like many things is a journey. If you were blessed to have wonderful parenting and an amazing childhood then your journey to healthy self-esteem will have been very short, but if you had less than ideal parenting or a difficult childhood, and/or you were very sensitive as a child then your journey will usually be much longer. Some people never complete their journey.
The good news is with the right guidance, knowledge and support your journey can be shortened considerably.
Despite the complexities of modern life and all the constant comparisons we’re bombarded with nowadays it’s very possible to change the way you feel about yourself. Completely possible, in fact.
So many issues – social anxiety, depression, addictions, phobias and apathy are caused because of low self esteem. Sort out your low self-esteem and your issues can disappear.
If you want to thrive in life, fulfil your potential and live your best possible life you MUST love and accept yourself first.
If you want to find your purpose in life and share your gifts with the world (and the world needs you to) you MUST love and accept yourself first.
If you want to have the most amazing, best-ever love relationship, where you’re respected and adored, you MUST love and accept yourself first.
If you want truly satisfying relationships with family, friends, colleagues, customers or clients you MUST love and accept yourself first.
If you want the most successful career or business ever you MUST love and accept yourself first.
If you want to be in the best shape and health of your life you MUST love and accept yourself first.
Do you get my point?
Learn to love and accept yourself and your life takes off in a way you never thought possible.
If you’re ready, take a look at my product suite. If you want to work with me personally, arrange a call.
Much Love,
Christina xx