Wow what a fabulous sunny weekend we’ve all had…
Just when it looked like summer was over September came up trumps 🙂
I hope you’re all soaking up as much of that lovely vitamin D as you can before it all goes away.
I’ve had the loveliest weekend 🙂
It’s amazing how everything seems to sparkle in the sunshine and look so much brighter.
So…wonky but wonderful…what am I talking about?
I’m talking about my breakfast berries.
That’s what it says on the packet…
Perfectly Imperfect Mixed Berries. Wonky but wonderful. Less than perfect, but just as tasty.
I’m not sure why they’re supposed to be ‘wonky’.
They look perfect to me.
They taste perfect to me too.
They go into my porridge, onto my yoghurt and into or onto anything else that needs to be fruited up.
When I buy them, there isn’t another packet beside them that says these are the perfect ones.
They’re the only ones.
Honestly, I can’t find anything wonky about them.
They’re not misshapen or a funny colour and they taste amazing.
I feel quite protective of my ‘wonky’ berries.
When did we decide that fruit had to be a perfect shape, shade or texture or it wasn’t worthwhile?
Years ago, when we all used to buy our fruit and veg from the greengrocer, we had a laugh if we got a funny shaped carrot or a gigantic strawberry.
As kids, we would all fight over the ‘big’ one – considering it the best one – the prize!
When did all that change?
Now fruit and veg has to be a certain size, curvature and colour or it’s immediately rejected.
Why does everything have to be aesthetically perfect, for it to be considered worthwhile/useful/tasty?
Well it doesn’t, in my opinion.
I prefer my food to be as natural and un-messed with as possible.
I think the same about people too.
While we’re ‘modifying’ our fruit and veg to make them look as perfect as possible, society is doing the same with people.
Especially what I call the Instagram generation – the Gen Z age group.
There is so much pressure on our young people to look a certain way.
Or to be a certain way…
Or to have certain things…
Or they think they’re not worthwhile…they’re less than.
What a load of rubbish!
This affects other older age groups too, although maybe to a lesser extent.
Most people don’t realise how covert this is and how much they’re being impacted.
No wonder the world’s self-esteem is so low.
I’ve talked about perfection so many times in my blogs.
I work with people with low self-esteem every day, and just about every one of them had the belief that they had to be perfect or they weren’t worthwhile.
Noooooooooooooooooooo!
What about individuality and embracing your uniqueness.
Often some of the most beautiful things in life are not classically beautiful.
They are wonky…but wonderful – just like my berries.
Perfection means something different to everyone…its completely subjective.
There are 8 billion different types of perfection in the world, like there are 8 billion different types of normal.
So can perfection really exist?
I meet so many perfectly lovely people who just can’t see their wonderfulness.
Their low self-esteem blinkers prevent them from seeing just how amazing/beautiful/unique they are.
All THEY see is wonky and all I see is wonderful.
I have my own wonky bits too, I know they’re there, but I don’t let them stop me feeling worthwhile…or even wonderful to the people who like and/or Love me.
They don’t focus on my wonky bits, so I don’t either.
Think about the people in your life that you like, admire, or Love.
Are they perfect?
Is that why you Love them?
No, I very much doubt it.
So you don’t need to be perfect either.
What we may consider perfect in the UK or the rest of the west is not what would be perfect in India, or China or many of the African countries.
It’s often the opposite.
Embrace who you are – run with it wholeheartedly – and just be the best version of you that you can be.
Be in your own lane.
A category of one.
You’re not in competition with anyone; because no-one else is you.
Good enough is the new perfect 🙂
Perfection is bloody hard work.
It makes you miserable.
It steals your joy.
Focus inwards and please you, rather than focussing outwards and pleasing everyone else. (You’ll never please them all anyway)!
We don’t need to be perfect to inspire others.
Let people be inspired by how you handle any imperfections.
Work on accepting yourself every day of your life and never stop.
It’s about progressing into the best you you can be, not about being perfect.
Be light, be easy, be confident in your body, because it’s the only body you’ll ever have.
Its the only place that will ever be completely and utterly yours.
Even if you don’t look like society’s idea of perfect, you can still be your own kind of beautiful.
If you have to be obsessed with anything, be obsessed with being comfortable in your own skin.
It all starts with acceptance.
Start to accept as many parts of you as you can.
You don’t have to be super skinny, but obesity is not ideal either.
Strive for a weight that is healthy for you.
Aim for perfectly happy, perfectly fulfilled and perfectly content.
REALLY liking yourself is more attractive than anything else on earth, in my opinion.
It’s the OPPOSITE of superficial and shallow.
A beautiful face will age and a perfect body will change, but awesome energy will always be awesome.
It’s ageless.
If this all sounds out of reach and a mountain to climb for you, then let me help you.
The vast majority of my previous clients thought this was impossible too and now they’re living proof that it wasn’t.
With the right kind of help and guidance, we can achieve SO much more than we ever thought possible.
We’re ALL perfectly imperfect and that’s ok!
Be like my berries, less than perfect but just as tasty 🙂
Much Love
Christina xx
P.S I scoured my photo libraries to find some wonky berries, but typically couldn’t find any, so here are some polished up shiny ones instead…it’s all good – if you like berries!